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culls world this week on you. i'm scared that of a war that's hard and in the end it's a me you're not allowed to stay here any more we will send you back. are you familiar with this. with the smugglers what alliances. what's your story. i mean when i was a women especially of victims of violence in rooms and take part and send us your story we are trying in all ways to understand this new culture. not a visitor not a guest you want to become a citizen. in for migrants your platform for reliable information.
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thanks to. forty percent of all women have experienced violence at the hands of their partners. they've been verbally abused beaten and raped. though of some have been subject to acid
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attacks or burned or mutilated. fathers have been murdered. and. i. think yes i. told her i wanted to go through one of my early childhood was very difficult i never knew my father my mother raised me by herself and that was hard. one served on that until the fifth grade i was a good student in one nine hundred ninety nine i received a scholarship for secondary school. and that's when i got my first marriage proposal.
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for local office of oil i was physically mature for my age and people used to look down on me. they said i was born out of wedlock and had to marry quickly to save my honor they said that if i didn't i'd end up just like my mother. but he did the longer you live if we don't look on google. and put it this way it was it so it took three years they kept telling her to marry me i was to apply but she refused and then she said i was too young and she wanted to send me to school a little late but. we're going. to buckle under her for the ride in the a vehicle that goes along with there are lots of marriage. negotiations but my mother was still opposed to the idea the prospective husbands got angry and threatened us where they said if i can't marry her i'll tell her. i was married
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when i was fourteen i didn't know anything about men or intimacy or starting a family. but. what among you have chicken and ducks you always slaughter the one that looks the most mature. so that's how it was with me. thank you. i. thank you one time our star super bowl was one day my husband came home and said he'd run out of money. he wanted me to take out a microcredit loan i said i had no idea how to do that because i knew nothing about banks. not taught me. from the. bottom mobile t.v.
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set my mother should do it. we had electrical cables hanging on the wall all over our house. and when i talked back to him. you know he flew into a rage and pulled down one of the cables he threw me onto the bed and doubled up the cable he was holding. while a drizzle and he beat me as hard as he could. i begged him to stop i prayed to allah . but my husband kept pounding away so i had very long hair at that time and every time he hit me he pulled my hair again and again. he jacked my hair down to my hips he slammed his elbows into my hips and back he
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beat me with a stick and kicked me. in the west african country of binny and it nearly one fifth of all females are subjected to genital mutilation. most girls are married against their will after they start menstruating at around the age of twelve. many run away from their husbands and end up living on the streets before turning to prostitution. zero zero zero. zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero. zero zero zero zero and i'm yelling give if i wasn't forced to marry my husband did early on he tried to seduce me but i stopped him so he told his mother that i didn't want him he said get her parents to
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make me marry her or i'll drink poison and kill myself. which is where but my mother refused then his mother fell on her knees in front of me when she was quite old and i told her that i didn't want to marry her son. welcomes she said that he was her only child and asked me at least to pretend that i loved him. not in this racket where my mother said that the woman had put a curse on me. all the people shouldn't behave like that in front of younger people missing girl so i decided to marry him anyway she had put a curse on me and noisome would be seen what was. that. was. what i'm going to be says when i was sixteen i got pregnant for the first time
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though my husband and i moved to the city of para kuwait but we couldn't live with anyone and his family. so i stayed with a friend of hers yeah my husband was violent right from the start he scolded humiliated and physically abused me even when i was pregnant. where home you'd be when jean even beat me the day before i gave birth. when the baby was born there were marks on his body where my husband had beaten me. you could see the imprint of his hands the baby was in great pain as soon as you touched him he'd start to scream. let me down maybe i don't know much you know much a midwife felt really sorry for me but what she told my mother to go to the police because she knew how much she had suffered because of the few. that my mother said she couldn't do that. because it would lead to a divorce and that would ruin everything.
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i. doubt. that it. they did that yeah yeah right i was i was. sad. but that will be crucial in the book in the book of genesis chapter two verse twenty four it says that god first created man and called him adam. then he took a rib from adam and created aids. and created in the sea itself it is the bible says god gave adam all thought. from the creation and this authority was not created by adam but by god himself. woman. not by some white women should just keep quiet. is the man who makes the decisions
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for. women is stupid. if you're married you know that already. when i get home i shouldn't have to tell my wife to wash my dirty clothes absolutely not my clothes should be already washed and dried so i can wear them right away. i don't want to have to argue about it to the city. in bangladesh almost all females are married against their will while they're still children. more than half of all married bangladeshi women say they've been subjected to domestic abuse. there are no laws to protect them from this kind of violence.
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imo the modern the will how does the how did says that muslim goes over the age of ten must be segregated from the rest of society and they must also cover their bodies. live off the entire body must be covered including the head in the face that's what it says in the koran. no part of a woman's body must be visible to others these are the only husbands are allowed to see their wives uncovered. something startled and women often bitten from talking to anyone except their husbands. unless her husband gives his permission i mean those are the rules of purdah. that men love the women are not allowed to go out in public without their husbands. or if a woman has children they must go. she's not allowed to go out by herself. you know
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holly to my. pillow certainly wasn't our local solicitor didn't have a child for three years. that's why my husband physically abused me. kool aid often beat me hard pushed my head under the bed and pound my back and box i was absolutely worn out both physically and mentally. so we spent almost all my mother's money on medical examinations. and those tests shows that i could technically have children. it was my husband who was infertile. so but the doctors also pointed out that i was much too young to get pregnant. don't know who the physical abuse continued my husband wouldn't give me any food for seven or eight days at
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a time my mother came to visit once and found me crying outside behind the house so i soon divorced my husband and looked with my mother for a year. where from i sort of got it because the city was a. dilemma. because i i. i. was there but i'm a collector later my aunt offered me a new marriage proposal she said the man was ok and well. at that time i had no one to take care of me no father or brother set up other models out i wasn't even eighteen yet and i got married for the second time was to say a point on my future husband was forty five years old after the wedding i
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discovered that this man had serious mental and physical problems. he started we couldn't work couldn't take care of himself at the hospital. i don't improve a little when i first saw him and person i fainted and i didn't wake up for five hours. it. was god along with you he slept with me whenever he wanted. i told myself that this was just part of being his wife but it was awful so i guess my body felt like it was on fire but i couldn't tell anyone. it's hot as warm so i just held my breath as if i was dead for.
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they always thought that when it came to sex he was insatiable. he wanted it all the time. when he penetrated me it felt terrible but i couldn't say anything much for. it he demanded sex every day whenever he felt like it but he always took me by force for example was cooking in the kitchen phone in the in-laws would come to visit and he dragged me into another broom and have sex while he was insane. it's no longer more like i'm going to be a critic republic of congo has been plagued by violence for more than two decades. a total of half a million women have been raped. and large numbers of women have been kidnapped and
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never seen again. that will look like a river that they've broken into the house and stole everything and they were out of control i screamed please don't kill my children. they asked where the children's father was around but when i told them he's not here. they ordered me to find him to bring him over right away and some of them raised their knives and threatened to stop me. they pointed their guns at us. they grabbed me in the middle of the night tied me up and threw me out signed on they were yelling the whole time. they got their knives out and tried to kill me i thought they would kill me i didn't say anything. i just kept crying. we book. they were doing they came into the house and asked whether i knew where to
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find some young girls i refused to tell them. so they beat me up one of them punched me in the eye and someone said they should kill me but another one said that they were going to take the women into the forest and hand them over to the men who'd been asking for them. because it was. by the way you look at you they came to the house and pounded on the door they shouted get up you idiot i could hear the boots pounding on the ground. i said to myself jesus one of them told me to get up and stop me with a knife. i screamed oh god who are going to. have got to have that if they stop me here and here and here. i am found myself leading a rash and i kept screaming. i collapsed on the floor because. i know
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who are now out here. they dragged me to my feet untied me up. when i passed out because i lost so much blood. i was still bleeding on and they kept stabbing me here and here. like are you crying oh jesus they just left me lying there i can't remember what happened after that. thank you. i'm now playing the. amount. of anybody. that. you want. she's my property i hope that will have a good life but if she starts behaving badly even though i gave a cow to have parents nothing out of the deal to me which integrated with that
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includes. if she goes somewhere without my permission i can call her my wife and email. can cause it's. every human makes my bed the same way. the difference is in the way they make love. if you go into the village and have good sex with a woman you can learn new techniques. but if you try them out on your wife she called you a male hole. with a good woman has to accept the way that you make love so that you don't start chasing other women consumable with predators around you can a woman express a sexual desire openly she's not allowed to talk about her feelings it would mean a man can tell a woman he wants sex but i want to contrast demand for it and. i think i see. russia. itself. in the democratic republic of
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congo women do twice as much work as men on average. but they have no opportunity to earn their own money or to acquire property. i gather that this is. us. i. read. what i.
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get. up to the hour i. think i i. think. i'm doing maybe i husband and i had nothing yeah yeah for me now and i got some food every once in awhile. while we slept on a van floor just. as soon as he come home he'd start beating me especially when he wanted to sleep with me and i didn't feel like it. was that if i had sex with him one day and then the next and then i'd say i'm tired he beat me on the third day that's right. time. mom watch out in the heat you know whenever i saw him i panicked
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i said you knew who did you're so afraid that your heart races and you bang your head against the wall. my dog myself who you were really afraid of almost all you seem not to have me i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone else who hired me to do i couldn't have fun with anyone i couldn't go outside to talk to people and that's what he kept threatening me and then he beat me he was violent we got to really we going to see me. if you hold me one time he showed up at the apartment and asked me why were you outside with the neighbors how dare you i don't believe you had to talk to people you know and then you punch me in the face when you who. are normal what they would look like what their dad said that that was ok you can see. this. gold i've. got a digital bone here in the another time he beat me while i was bathing my infant son
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who had just been circumcised he smacked me in the forehead while my husband was beating me the child slipped out of my hands and fell into a bucket which he continued to beat me he pounded me with the bucket until it was completely bent out of shape. you want all. female but i wasn't wearing any clothes no shoes nothing to me i walked out of the apartment. and went to the police station. i screamed please help me my husband followed me and kept insulting me. that you know if you have you lost it. oh yes i begged the police to help me i asked them to come back home with me so i could pack up my things and you know but they said. there was nothing we continue to please don't take action how can we get men to change their behavior so let's see who pontiacs is.
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you see if you give women all the freedom they want they won't be able to handle it they have no morals and they cause trouble. some people say that independent women are prostitutes. and proceeds you. know what. if you beat your wife so hard that she needs you you've got to have a good reason. if you find your wife in your home with another man it hurts and you've got to put a stop to it not. going to the old woman you don't want to do so you beat the living daylights out of her and meet her lying on the floor that's what you should do if you catch your wife sleeping with another man. window but. you can't throw a man out of his house while the women have houses i don't know so men have the right to criticize. but i don't ya'll know the person. to know a guy you know men don't want other men to see their wives naked even if she's
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outside your and we don't want strangers to see that oh yeah if a man finds his wife in the bushes he might suspect that she's having sex with another guy why when he's a man. and he can sleep with someone else's wife he will. tell you he does that because he thinks he must dominate or. that men also cheat on their spouses but i wanted to put. the democratic republic of congo is a major supplier of cotton or which contains the element ten to one this element is widely used in the manufacture of personal electronic devices. congo's called turn mining industry is controlled by rebels who use profits from sales of the war to finance their military operations thank.
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god i was. told i was going to the gulf heaven because it is where i didn't it is only going to when those men were filthy animals. they raped us. if we didn't want to have sex with them they took us by force. they tore off our clothes i may just do things that we didn't want to do. they spat on us you can't imagine how awful these people were. and when i first saw them my heart sank and kept beating faster and faster. it was like i'd seen a lion coming out of the jungle yeah that was it but holding up we should have a couple more they forced the women to lie on the ground in rows. one woman right next to the other had all the way and then they raked us right there in public when
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they moved from one woman to another talk about god and. some women covered their face out of shame could and the men beat them and you call them and yelled at them don't cover your eyes to every one who did was beaten. and it was she and we were forced to watch all that and it enabled. but i hear milo would look they'd bring in a boy and order him to have sex with his mother. they said that if he refused they'd kill him but we've seen a lot of suffering so much. before. the rebels ordered us to pick up some sticks. they said that one of the men was going to be killed that day and we were going to do it. they weren't going to shoot that man or stabbed him to death. when they said that we were going to beat him to death
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with our sticks. the rebels surrounded the victim and ordered him not to cry. they said that if we cried thank shooters we started beating him and kept beating him until he was dead to me. i. guess i. should be in up on civil duty one day my husband attacked me with a recent thing. i done this child was three years old at the time. might finish
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cooking and washing the dishes i went outside to dump some dirty water yeah when i came back where the child said daddy's lying on the bed under the musky to net the way i'm talking i didn't believe him when i looked in there he wants what i was terrified because he had this wild look on his face his eyes were glowing he looked like a monster. i turned my back on him to tend to the child that's when my husband attacked me i fell down he tried to force my mouth open he pressed his fingers into my cheeks while i clamped my teeth together. and i cried out like a sheet he took a can of liquid and pulled the contents into my mouth is what i felt a burning sensation and i wanted to scream. but i kept quiet because if i tried to speak i probably swallowed the acid and he actually thought i had swallowed it and was going to burn my insides. then he put on some gloves. and
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port the rest of the acid over my body. he dropped it into my eyes and the rest of my face. covered my whole body with it i was lined motionless on the floor then my husband left the apartment and locked the door from the outside who had been would it's out of your call would you do. if. you choose to get my mouth felt like it was on fire i don't know what the pain was unbearable do you know who. it is to treat you but yes started to fall out because it was covered with outside our jack my clothes were shredded sore so i
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have to walk around as nearly ninety and some medical stuff you. have to i don't like it was burning then it was more it will. likely. come in all the police arrested my husband but later let him go on a means of has been housing me and the children and we have no where else to go. or he knows where we live if erekat. new. he's always driving around the neighborhood looking for us he may know and i'm nervous all the time because i'm
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afraid i do i'm always afraid of me even when i leave the house during the day or my mother doesn't want me to go out alone so when i do go out i always take two other people with me to get to live a. bus or even evoke even though she wants to kill me and my children and i can't even go out to the toilet alone at night because of him very very i have to wake up my sister or brother to go along with me. but my husband is always hanging around the neighborhood the. maze of i'm not safe here tonight for my children he soon he follows the kids all the time and threatens them that's just terrible. on that was still afraid because of him we're not safe here. will not prosecute the .
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i told him of so much so he kept having sex with me on one of my life as a living hell would you want. him back on our it was like my family who had arranged the marriage had thrown me into a lake of fire. sometimes i thought it would be better to take poison or hang myself. but i didn't. my mother says that if i had been a good wife my marriage wouldn't have gone so wrong and now it was my fate to live alone. she said that if i had really wanted to be married i would not have left my husband. there to get to be assured that when i saw that my daughter had been badly abused i decided to take her to my home but after about two weeks some people came
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and brought her back to her husband. that i knew then i talked to some village elders and told them what had happened. i listened to their advice and decided i was not going to give her back. it's there is no justice in our society that we have to live with that if i complain people say that my daughter is a bad woman and i'm just making things worse by an image of what the. value of that is all of the women have to deal with a huge amount of stress caused by their husbands and in what's on the other his sheikha if they have no education. they have to rely completely on those people he
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. says when he was she only got another little when the girls go to school the boys harass them along the way. but a lot of the shit that happens a lot these days and that's why a lot of girls don't go to school. they were doing things that they're afraid that they'll lose their own or because they're being harassed by boys. in bengali culture it's impossible for boys to lose their own a. status of their because only happens to women on it. and when it does they become outcasts in society that it was a very different mode right there from other to that. video. that it out. there was. that out. there well. i really am.
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i'm. new. to them and because the chemistry today i can talk about what happened to me. i wasn't able to do that before. i couldn't even talk to myself about it so but now i can talk to anyone anywhere at the market for example. so i want to give something i have a lot more courage house over on this house and i'm going to i've been able to climb out of that swamp. i've come a long way thanks to the people at the archie project. they helped me make some changes in my life and i think i've done really well so i want to see in the minors how you're going to talk to look at the most amount of talk about what the article
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was that he could do is going to pick somebody who. could get. that. i. just. i i prefer to think that if it's in. the right shin i'm on the clock you got to know when we got here i learned that my
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son. had died. when and where we went we went through some really hard times. and then a little later. my daughter was kidnapped. because they didn't know what to do i had to live in the countryside life was terribly hard that's all i can say yes my husband left me and moved to. you stayed there for a long time because he didn't want to take me back. before that he and i had a good life we got along but when these problems turned up his personality changed he wanted to shut me out of his life and he claimed that i supported the hutu rebels. because. one of.
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the middle. they don't know where to go to many of you mind if i live outdoors in the countryside and i have no husband and no children only with mine they killed my child in. one and so now i said tara lone i have no place to live i'm worried and miserable. they have to deal with a lot of different problems we have to look for food with clothes and a place to sleep and we don't have a proper home at the time we just live outdoors. like the birds. i'm calling.
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to write here i have my children made fun of my undivided me. they said that i wasn't human anymore when your clay asked myself how my children could treat me like that or to hand in a blanket and i wondered what my parents would say when they found out about it when and that would happen my husband was doing the devil's work when he started spreading those rumors about me. and my children believed him that i give him some food but he refused it he said he didn't want to be served by someone who lived in the forest. for my children no longer thought of me as their mother and that it was like they thought that i was dead. when i laugh that you know as any of. these events left scars on our hearts. and to this day when i hear a noise like a knock on the door or
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a candle falling over i'm frightened and my heart starts beating faster. i feel awful my heart is beating faster because i'm afraid that something awful will happen again and the city will you know try to pin to try to get a better. experiences have also affected our mental health when on the one hand i feel fine right now but later i might start crying because i feel threatened. it's like i've gone crazy i'm king of worship she can. have a good dad i did the wrong it was the way that. i'm no one often will a month or more when school starts you're going to have to learn how to raise guinea pigs. give one to each child in your family. there's plenty of grass here for the guinea pigs to eat. if the kids can feed them if you have to pay school fees you can sell three guinea pigs if you haven't got enough food you can eat them
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yeah yeah i eat guinea pig meat myself. if i live somewhere like assuming you know what i would. get my bed. you know. the make up we work with the c m m a support group but i farmers breeders or traders. we meet on the first and last day of each moment and we talk about how to make our lives better ways each of us donates five hundred francs to a special fund. and we give the money to women so you've just had a child or someone who's just got married or who we also give money to the relatives of the people who've died physically with this is this. was. a man that was.
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a school. much of it off to one hundred lives the ideals of the favs are more relevant today than they were a hundred years ago missionaries from shapes of things to come boss people to design is a way of shaping society. with ideas that are part of. our house world this week on t w. united states president donald trump offered democrats a deal to bring an end to the longest government shutdown in u.s. history the compromise would extend protection for dreamers people brought to the u.s. illegally as children while enabling funding for trump's five point seven billion dollar border wall leading democrat.


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