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i think people are really looking for any journalist they can trust for them to make sense of this. is not often i work at the w. . where it's hard. when your family is scattered across the globe. with the kids is to do it deliberately because the journey back to the roots should get a minuteman. the shah traveling from somalia move around the world to someone who did urgent assistance. the family starts january twenty third on t.w. . me. going
you i. thank. you. all cried when it was revealed in my early childhood was very difficult i never knew my father my mother raised me by herself and that was hard. one to answer until the fifth grade i was a good student in one nine hundred ninety nine i received a scholarship for secondary school. and that's when i got my first marriage proposal. telling local officials of oil i was physically mature for my age and people used
to look down on me. they said i was born out of wedlock and had to marry quickly to save my honor they said that if i didn't i'd end up just like my mother. but he did the longer you live if we don't love the little. and put it so it will be so it took three years they kept telling her to marry me i was the other poor but she refused and then she said i was too young and she wanted to send me to school a little bit but. we're going to. go to brooklyn i think i heard her right in the world maybe i thought it was a local there were lots of america. negotiations but my mother was still opposed to the idea. the prospective husbands got angry and threatened us with what they said if i can't marry her i'll tell her. i was married when i was fourteen i didn't know anything about men or intimacy or starting a family. and we. got
a little bit you have chicken and ducks you always slaughter the one that looks the most mature. so that's how it was with me. you. know what i mean our stars are problem because one day my husband came home and said he'd run out of money. he wanted me to take out a microcredit loan i said i had no idea how to do that because i knew nothing about banks. bought me. from. buffalo bill daley said my mother should do it. we had electrical cables hanging on
the wall all over our house. and when i talked back to him. cool you know he flew into a rage and pulled down one of the cable it's like he threw me onto the bed and doubled up the cable he was holding. drizzle and he beat me as hard as he could. i begged him to stop i prayed to allah . but my husband kept pounding away so i had very long hair at that time and every time he hit me he pulled my hair again and again. he jacked my hair down to my hips he slammed his elbows into my hips and back he beat me with a stick and kicked me. in
the west african country of binny and nearly one fifth of all females are subjected to genital mutilation. most girls are married against their will after they start menstruating at around the age of twelve. many run away from their husbands and end up living on the streets before turning to prostitution. or. wrong. it was. for. a man miaowing if i wasn't forced to marry my husband did early on he tried to seduce me but i stopped him so he told his mother that i didn't want him to get her parents to make me marry her or i'll drink poison and kill myself. while we but my mother refused to do it then his mother fell on her knees in front of me when she was
quite old i told her that i didn't want to marry her son when you're welcome see she said that he was her only child and asked me at least to pretend that i loved him. no to this react a word my mother said that the woman had put a curse on me and all the people shouldn't behave like that in front of younger people. so i decided to marry him anyway she had put a curse on me and me noisome would you see what i. was. i was. one of. the says when i was sixteen i got pregnant for the first time though my husband and i moved to the city of para coeur randall but we couldn't live with anyone in his family. so i stayed with a friend of hers yeah my husband was violent right from the start he scolded
humiliated and physically abused me even when i was pregnant. well hold me a b. when gene even beat me the day before i gave birth. when the baby was born there were marks on his body where my husband had beaten me. you could see the imprint of his hands the baby was in great pain as soon as you touched him he'd start to scream now will calm. me down maybe i don't know much you know much a midwife felt really sorry for me. she told my mother to go to the police because she knew how much she had suffered because of many of you. but my mother said she couldn't do that. because it would lead to a divorce and that would ruin everything. i. doubt. that it. was good
yeah yeah really was i was. sad. but i think that will be crucial in the book of genesis in the book of genesis chapter two verse twenty four it says that god first created man and called him adam. then he took a rib from adam and created a verse. and create a name is the use of it in the bible says god gave adam or thirty over eighth of a mile from the creation than this so thirty was not created by adam but by god himself. it will mark. the from now by some white women should just keep quiet is the man who makes the decisions fight. and the poor gentleman women is stupid. if you are married you know that already. although when i get home i
shouldn't have to tell my wife to wash my dirty clothes absolutely not my clothes should be already washed and dried so i can wear them right away. i don't want to have to argue about it so this is. happening in bangladesh almost all females are married against their will while they're still children. more than half of all married bangladeshi women say they've been subjected to domestic abuse. there are no laws to protect them from this kind of violence. in. a mobile i want to know how does the hide it says that muslim girls over the age of
ten must be segregated from the rest of society and they must also cover their bodies. for the entire body must be covered including the head in the face that's what it says in the koran. no part of a woman's body must be visible to others he still doesn't. only husbands are allowed to see their wives uncovered. some unsettled and women are forbidding from talking to anyone except their husbands. unless her husband gets his permission. those are the rules of purdah. there is no women are not allowed to go out in public without their husbands. or if a woman has children they must go with her. she is not allowed to go out by herself . you know how intimate.
to listen to what don't i look i'm serious i didn't have a child for three years. that's why my husband physically abused me. but it often beat me hard to push my head under the bed and pound my back and box i was absolutely why now both physically and mentally. since we spent almost all my mother's money on medical examinations. and those tests shows that i could technically have children. it was my husband who was infertile. but the doctors also pointed out that i was much too young to get pregnant. the physical abuse continued my husband wouldn't give me any food for seven or eight days at a time my mother came to visit once and found me crying outside behind the house so i soon divorced my husband and looked with my mother for a year to her. we're from myself but it was those it was going to go to us eleven.
weeks ago i i. i. was there but i'm a collector later my aunt offered me a new marriage proposal she said the man was ok and well there. at that time that i had no one to take care of me no father brothers of the modern ones i wasn't even eighteen yet and i got married for the second time was to save quite on my future husband was forty five years old the sort of after the wedding i discovered that this man had serious mental and physical problems but if. he started the way we couldn't work couldn't take care of himself at the hospital the
lump. which. i don't improve a little when i first saw him and person i fainted and i didn't wake up for five hours. well it was. quite a long year he slept with me whenever he wanted. i told myself that this was just part of being his wife but it was awful so i got my body felt like it was on fire but i couldn't tell anyone. so i just held my breath as if i was dead. when it came to sex he was insatiable. he wanted it all the time.
when he penetrated me it felt terrible but i couldn't say anything. he demanded sex every day whenever he felt like it but he always took me by force for example while i was cooking in the kitchen. but the in-laws would come to visit and he drag me into another broom and have sex while he was insane. it's no longer my mark i'm going democratic republic of congo has been plagued by violence for more than two decades. a total of half a million women have been raped. and large numbers of women have been kidnapped and never seen again. that really i don't know about the frog into the house and stole everything when they were out of control i
screamed please don't kill my children. and they asked where the children's father was. and i told them he's not here. they ordered me to find him to bring him over right away and some of them raised their knives and threatened to stop me. they pointed their guns at us. they grabbed me in the middle of the night tied me up and threw me out signed on they were yelling the whole time. they got their knives out and trying to kill me i thought they would kill me i didn't say anything. i just kept crying. we broke. ground they came into the house and asked whether i knew where to find some young girls i refused to tell them. so they beat me up one of them punched me in the eye and someone said they should kill me which another one said
that they were going to take the women into the forest and hand them over to the men who'd been asking for them. you know. they came to the house and pounded on the door they shouted get up you idiot i could hear their boots pounding on the ground. i said to myself church of jesus and one of them told me to get up and stabbed me with a knife. i screamed oh god who are they don't you. have got to have it if they stop me here and here and here or there. rather comical how i felt myself leading edge and i show you mash and i kept screaming. when i collapsed on the film because. i cracked me to my feet untied me up. then i can stand out
because i lost so much blood. i was still bleeding on and they kept stomping me here and here. how that really is like you crying oh jesus they just left me lying there can't get a car member what happened after that you can't. yes . you are. just my property i hope that we'll have a good life but if she starts behaving badly even though i gave a cow to her parents nothing out of the deal. with i don't. she go somewhere without my permission i can call her my wife and. that there can
cause it's. filth every woman makes my bed the same way. the difference is in the way they make love with him but if you go into the village and have good sex with a woman you can learn new techniques. but if you try them out on your wife she called you a male hole. with a good woman has to accept the way that you make love so that you don't stop chasing other women as well but with a number of different around you can a woman express a sexual desire openly she's not allowed to talk about her feelings it would mean a man can tell a woman he wants sex but i want to contrast a man for it and. i think as he. rushed over to look for. in the democratic republic of congo women do twice as much work as men on average. but they have no opportunity to earn their own money or to acquire property. i
i i i. i. i want to maybe i hustle and and i had nothing yeah yeah now and i got some food every once in a while i. was left on a bad floor just. as soon as he come home he'd start beating me when yeah especially when he wanted to sleep with me and i didn't feel like it. was like if i had sex with him one day and then the next and then i'd say i'm tired he beat me on the third day that's right. mom which i will have to you know whenever i saw him i panicked called i see if you knew who did you're so afraid that your heart races and you bang your head against the wall. my dogs myself who you are really afraid of almost all if you don't know
how i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone else behind me didn't i couldn't have fun with anyone i couldn't go outside to talk to people and that's what he kept threatening me and then he beat me you know he was violent we got to really we going to see me last if you hold me one time he showed up at the apartment and asked me why were you outside with the neighbors come to you i don't leave you had to talk to people you know and then you punch me in the find the man who. the normal man would never put. that down that said that there's no you. see this. gold i'm. like i'm going to digital you were born here in the another time he beat me while i was bathing my infant son who had just been circumcised he smacked me in the forehead while my husband was beating me the child slipped out of my hands and fell into a bucket which he continued to beat me he pounded me with the bucket until it was
completely bent out of shape. if you want all the. details but i wasn't wearing any clothes no shoes nothing to me i walked out of the apartment. and went to the police station. i screamed please help me my husband followed me and kept insulting me. that you know if you hear nothing. oh yes i thank the police to help me when i asked them to come back home with me so i could pack up my things but they said. there was nothing they could do to please don't take action how can we get men to change their behavior so let's see who pontiacs. you see if you give women all the freedom they want they won't be able to handle it
they have no morals and they cause trouble. some people say that independent women are prostitutes. and prosecute. if you beat your wife so hard that she needs you you've got to have a good reason. if you find your wife in your home with another man it hurts and you've got to put a stop to it not. going to the only thing you don't want to do so you beat the living daylights out of her and meet her lying on the floor that's what you should do if you catch your wife sleeping with another man. window but. you can't throw a man out of his house while the women have houses for i don't know so men have the right to criticize. for a dollar a gallon the question the. good old guy you know men don't want other men to see their wife naked even if she's outside your and we don't want strangers to see that oh yeah if a man finds his wife in the bushes he might suspect that she's having sex with
another guy why when he's a man. and he can sleep with someone else's wife he will. he does that because he thinks he must dominate or. that men also cheat on their spouses are willing to take. the democratic republic of congo is a major supplier of cotton or which contains the element ten to one this element is widely used in the manufacture of personal electronic devices. congo's coltan mining industry is controlled by. rebels who use profits from sales of the war to finance their military operations thank. god i was i. thought i was the. head of the. interior and i didn't need to be
only going to win those men were filthy animals. they raped us. if we didn't want to have sex with them they took us by force. they tore a fact loathsome i may just do things that we didn't want to do when. they spat on us but you can't imagine how awful these people were. and when i first saw them my heart sank and kept beating faster and faster. it was like i'd seen a lion coming out of the jungle yelling. that i love which is i'm a couple they forced the women to lie on the ground in rows. one woman right next to the other heard all the way and then they raped us right there in public. they moved from one woman to another talk about god and. some women covered
their face out of shame and the men beat them and you can of them and yelled at them don't cover your eyes to every one who did was beaten. and it was she and we were forced to watch all that anything. but there you are milo would look they'd bring in a boy and order him to have sex with his mother. they said that if he refused they'd kill him but we've seen a lot of suffering so much. before. we see the rebels ordered us to pick up some sticks. they say that one of the men was going to be killed that day and we were going to do it. they weren't going to shoot that man or stabbed him to death and. when they said that we were going to beat him to death with our sticks. the rebel surrounded the victim and ordered him not to cry.
they said that if we cried thank shooters we started beating him and kept beating him until he was dead to me calling you names and. thank you i have been up on civil duty one day my husband attack me with us and i'm with you when i don't this child was three years old at the time . i finished cooking and washing the dishes i went outside to dump some dirty water yeah when i came back the child said daddy's lying on the bed under the musty to
net the way i'm talking i didn't believe him when i looked in there he wants it while i was terrified because he had this wild look on his face his eyes were glowing he looked like a monster. i turned my back on him to tend to the child that's when my husband attacked me i fell down he tried to force my mouth open he pressed his fingers into my cheeks while i clamped my teeth together. and i cried out like a sheet he took a kind of liquid and pulled the contents into my mouth. i felt a burning sensation and i wanted to scream. but i kept quiet because if i tried to speak i probably swallow the acid and he actually thought i had swallowed it and was going to burn my insides. then he put on some gloves and port the rest of the acid over my body when. he dropped it into my eyes and the
rest of my face. covered by help body with it i was lying motionless on the floor then my husband left the apartment and locked the door from the outside what being a would be to have you all would be doing. the. j.p. feel it my mouth felt like it was on fire. the pain was unbearable do you know brooke. it is true but yes started to fall out it because it was covered with us and our jacked my clothes were shredded sore so i have to walk around as nearly ninety. and some medical a few a. body felt like it was
burning then there was more of. that. comment on. the police arrested my husband but later let him go. has been housing me and the children and we have nowhere else to go vive. he knows where we live if erekat. he's always driving around the neighborhood looking for me you know and i'm nervous all the time because i'm afraid to act and we're always afraid even when i leave the house during the day or my mother doesn't want me to go out alone so when i do go out i always take two other people with me to get. by so
easily evoke even if she wants to kill me and my children i can't even go out to the toilet alone at night because of him very very i have to wake up my sister or brother to go along with me. but my husband is always hanging around the neighborhood that the. maze of i'm not safe here tonight for my children. he follows the kids all the time and threatens them that's just terrible but to bring on that was still afraid and because of him we're not safe here. bt.
i told him a strong word so he kept having sex with me monoliths my life as a living hell of the woman i saw him there going on and it was like my family who had arranged the marriage had thrown me into a lake of fire. sometimes i thought it would be better to take poison or hang myself. but i didn't. my mother says that if i had been a good wife my marriage wouldn't have gone so wrong and now it was my fate to live alone. she said that if i had really wanted to be married i would not have left my husband some little distance because you know when i saw that my daughter had been badly abused i decided to take her to my home but after about two weeks some people came and brought her back to her husband. that i knew then i talked to
some village elders and told them what had happened. i listened to their advice and decided i was not going to give her back. it's there is no justice in our society that we have to live with that if i complain people say that my daughter is a bad woman and i'm just making things worse my limited out of what the. law here and that is having women have to deal with a huge amount of stress caused by their husbands and in-laws misty don't go home of their her she can if they have no education. they have to rely completely on those people. really were she they want to go to another level when the girls go to school the boys harass them along the way. so that if that happens a lot these days and that's why
a lot of girls don't go to school. for doing things that they're afraid that they'll lose their own or because they're being harassed by boys. in bengali culture it's impossible for boys to lose their own nothing. there because it only happens to women. and when it does they become outcasts in society that it was that it was the family right there some other day that daddy. cut it out. then was. i mean that out. there oh no. i really am. i don't.
you. know you condemn me out of the camera today i can talk about what happened to me. i was unable to do that before. i couldn't even talk to myself about it. but now i can talk to anyone anywhere at the market for example. so i want to give something i have a lot more courage. and i'm going to i've been able to climb out of that swamp. i've come a long way thanks to the people at the archie project. they helped me make some changes in my life and i think i've done really well so i want to see in some of those who live on top of the love that was the mascot of the talk was the work i had to do to do it i believe if somebody. could believe. that.
and then a little later. my daughter was kidnapped and of course i didn't know what to do i had to live in the countryside life was terribly hard that's all i can say yes my husband left me and moved to. he stayed there for a long time because he didn't want to take me back. before that he and i had a good life we got along but when these problems turned up his personality changed he wanted to shut me out of his life and he claimed that i supported the hutu rebels. who are. one of.
the middleman going to call me if i don't know where to go i live outdoors in the countryside. i have no husband and no children only with mine they killed my child in. one and so now i said tara lone i have no place to live i'm worried and miserable. i have to deal with a lot of different problems we have to look for food with the clothes and a place to sleep if we don't have a proper home we just live outdoors or go to like the birds. and calling. to write here have. my children made fun of my undivided me. they said that i
wasn't human anymore when your client asked myself how my children could treat me like that or to hand him a drug and i wondered what my parents would say when they found out about it and i would talk about my husband was doing the devil's work when he started spreading those rumors about me. she and my children believed him that i'd give him some food but he refused it he said he didn't want to be served by someone who lived in the forest. for my children no longer thought of me as their mother. it was like they thought that i was dead. that it was an evil. these events left scars on our hearts. and to this day when i hear a noise like a knock on the door or a can falling over i'm frightened my heart starts beating faster i feel awful my heart is beating faster because i'm afraid there's something awful will
happen again. it's hard to pin to try to get a talkies experiences have also affected our mental health one on one and i feel fine right now but later i might start crying because i feel threatened. it's like i've gone crazy ok and good wishes she could. say was that it. was the end. i know one of often well i must when school starts you're going to have to learn how to raise guinea pigs while you give one to each child in your family. there's plenty of grass here for the guinea pigs to eat. if the kids can feed them if you have to pay school fees you can sell three guinea pigs if you haven't got enough food you can eat them. i eat pig meat myself if i lose all my best i will be. able to get my being. you know. we work with the
cement support group where farmers breeders or traders. we meet on the first and last day of each moment and we talk about how to make our lives better. each of us donates five hundred francs to a special fund. and we give the money to women just had a child or someone who's just got married or who we also give money to the relatives of the people who've died with this is just silly. listen. you bring that. to me that i know. the. value of blaming the big money because you believe you
can get the help. now when oh my god that is a worry about how much of a home one zero zero zero. down the. my . film manager. is the nicest thing is in a different lines. to try. to invent it see it in scenes. dissolve in space into enlists. one of the greatest artists of that time james to nail her against on. in thirty minutes on d w. four.
i'm scared that the work that's hard and in the end is a me you're not allowed to stay here any more we will send you back. are you familiar with this. with the smugglers would lie and say. what's your story. i mean when i was in women especially of victims of violence in terms of its take part and send us your story we are trying in all ways to understand this new culture. are not until a turn other guests you want to become a citizen. in for migrants your platform for a while information. this