Skip to main content

tv   Doc Film - For All the World to See  Deutsche Welle  January 21, 2019 6:15am-7:01am CET

6:15 am
job huge platform for. fake hair and real story. where i come from a lot of women like me have fake hair sometimes a hairstyle takes up to two days it's a lot of time that needs to be filled so people at the salon talk about what's happening in their lives so i became a journalist to be a storyteller and i always want to find those real authentic stories from everyday people who have something to share. with all the time i spent at the salon i know a good quality here when i see it and a good story when i hear it it's my name is elizabeth shawl and i work at steve's album. the.
6:16 am
forty percent of all women have experienced violence at the hands of their partners . they've been virtually abused beaten and raped. for the good of some have been subject to acid attacks or burned or mutilated. fathers have been murdered. and. i want to thank you
6:17 am
i. told privately one through one of my early childhood was very difficult i never knew my father my mother raised me by herself and that was hard. for. one dancer from going until the fifth grade i was a good student in one nine hundred ninety nine i received a scholarship for secondary school. and that's when i got my first marriage proposal. telling local us first of all i was physically mature for my age and people used to
6:18 am
look down on me. they said i was born out of wedlock and had to marry quickly to save my honor they said that if i didn't i'd end up just like my mother. what he did the. levy family doted on little. effort it so was it so he took three years they kept telling her to marry me i was the other poor but she refused she said i was too young and she wanted to send me to school full of all that but. we're going to. her when she broke the record clearly made me want to be able to help us all up there were lots of america. negotiations but my mother was still opposed to the idea the prospective husbands got angry and threatened us with they said if i can't marry her i'll tell her. i was married when i was fourteen i didn't know anything about men or intimacy or starting a family. but. that's. what
6:19 am
they're moving you have chicken adox you always slaughter the one that looks the most mature. so that's how it was with me. thank. you thank you. thank you for summer so i was with one of them because one day my husband came home and said he'd run out of money. and he wanted me to take out a microcredit loan i said i had no idea how to do that because i knew nothing about banks. not only. from me but the mobile t.v. said my mother should do it. we had electrical cables
6:20 am
hanging on the wall all over our house. and when i talked back to him. but you know he flew into a rage and pulled down one of the cables he threw me onto the bed and doubled up the cable he was holding it. well and drizzle and he beat me as hard as he could. i begged him to stop i prayed to allah. but my husband kept pounding away so i had very long hair at that time and every time he hit me he pulled my hair again and again. he jacked my hair down to my hips he slammed his elbows into my hips and back he beat me with a stick and kicked me. in
6:21 am
the west african country of binny and nearly one fifth of all females are subjected to genital mutilation. most girls are married against their will after they start menstruating at around the age of twelve. many run away from their husbands and end up living on the streets before turning to prostitution the. wrong. oh. oh oh oh. oh oh oh. oh oh in the neon if i wasn't forced to marry my husband the early on he trying to seduce me but i stopped him so he told his mother that i didn't want him yet he said get her parents to make me marry her or i'll drink poison and kill myself. why would you call queer but my mother refused then his mother fell on her knees in front of
6:22 am
me when she was quite old and i told her that i didn't want to marry her son when. she said that he was her only child and asked me at least to pretend that i loved him. not in this racket world my mother said that the woman had put a curse on me and all the people shouldn't behave like that in front of younger people think oh so i decided to marry him anyway she had put a curse on me and noisome would you see what i. was like i did. when i told him the same when i was sixteen i got pregnant for the first time though my husband and i moved to the city of power kuharich london but we couldn't live with anyone in his family. so i stayed with a friend of hers and my husband was violent right from the start he scolded
6:23 am
humiliated and physically abused me even when i was pregnant. while home here when gene even beat me the day before i gave birth. when the baby was born there were marks on his body where my husband had beaten me. you could see the imprint of his hands the baby was in great pain well as soon as you touched him he'd start to scream no no. money down maybe i don't know much you know much a midwife felt really sorry for me but she told my mother to go to the police because she knew how much she had suffered because of me if you can do that my mother said she couldn't do that. because it would lead to a divorce and that would ruin everything. i. was thinking that it is good that
6:24 am
he. was i was. sad. but that will be crucial in the book of genesis in the book of genesis chapter two verse twenty four it says that god first created man and called him adam. then he took a read from adam and created a give. and create a scene you see yourself in. the bible says god gave adam or thirty over eighth of a mile from depression than this authority was not created by adam but by god himself. not by some white women should just keep quiet. it's the man who makes the decisions for. women a stupid. if you're married you know that already.
6:25 am
although when i get home i shouldn't have to tell my wife to wash my dirty clothes absolutely not my clothes should be already washed and dried so i can wear them right away. i don't want to have to argue about it to this. in then the dish almost all females are married against their will while they're still children. more than half of all married bangladeshi women say they've been subjected to domestic abuse. there are no laws to protect them from this kind of violence. in. a mobile i want to know how does the how did says that muslim goes over the age of
6:26 am
ten must be segregated from the rest of society and they must also cover their bodies. tell us all of the entire body must be covered including the head in the face that's what he says in the koran. no part of a woman's body must be visible to others. will only husbands are allowed to see their wives uncovered. a summer settled and women are forbidding from talking to anyone except their husbands or something unless the husband gives his permission i mean those are the rules of purdah. that men will do is no women are not allowed to go out in public without their husbands. or if a woman has children they must go. she's not allowed to go out by herself. you know holly to make.
6:27 am
you feel a certain was done by local solicitor didn't have a child for three years. that's why my husband physically abused me. but it often beat me hard to push my head under the bed and pound my back and box i was absolutely y. now both physically and mentally. so we spent almost all my mother's money on medical examinations. and those tests shows that i could technically have children. it was my husband who was infertile. but the doctors also pointed out that i was much too young to get pregnant. the physical abuse continued my husband wouldn't give me any food for seven or eight days at a time my mother came to visit once and found me crying outside behind the house so i soon divorced my husband and looked with my mother for a year. where from was also what it was supposed to be was that whatever goes with
6:28 am
us eleven. years i. i. i. was there but i'm a collector later my aunt offered me a new marriage proposal she said the man was ok and well. at that time that i had no one to take care of me no father or brother so out of the models i wasn't even eighteen yet and i got married for the second time. to support on my future husband was forty five years old does it look after the wedding i discovered that this man had serious mental and physical problems but if he started he couldn't work couldn't take care of himself at the hospital there was nothing.
6:29 am
i. don't unplug the little when i first saw him and person i fainted and i didn't wake up for five hours. it was one long he slept with me whenever he wanted them up there i told myself that this was just part of being his wife. but it was awful so i got my body felt like it was on fire but i couldn't tell anyone. it's hot as warm so i just held my breath as if i was dead for. they always thought that when it came to sex he was insatiable. he wanted it all the time. when he penetrated me it felt terrible but i couldn't say anything.
6:30 am
about it he demanded sex every day whenever he felt like it but he always took me by force for example lot of was cooking in the kitchen tony but the in-laws would come to visit and he drag me into another room and have sex while he was insane. longer mark i'm going democratic republic of congo has been plagued by violence for more than two decades. a total of half a million women have been raped. and large numbers of women have been kidnapped and never seen again. they broke into the house and stole everything when they were out of control i
6:31 am
screamed please don't kill my children. and they asked where the children's father was around. and i told them he's not here. they ordered me to find him to bring him over right to whiny and some of them raised their knives and threatened to stop me. they pointed their guns at us. they grabbed me in the middle of the night tied me up and threw me out signed on they were yelling the whole time. they got their knives out and tried to kill me i thought they would kill me i didn't say anything. i just kept crying. we've been. around they came into the house and when i asked whether i knew where to find some young girls i refused to tell them. so they beat me up one of them punched me in the eye and someone said they should kill me but another one said
6:32 am
that they were going to take the women into the forest and hand them over to the men who'd been asking for them. because it was. bad when we got there they came to the house and pounded on the door they shouted get up you idiot i could hear the boots pounding on the ground. i said to myself church of jesus one of them told me to get up and stop me with a knife. i screamed oh god who are they don't you. have got to have better if they stop me here and here and here or there. i'm felt myself leading. and i kept screaming. when i collapsed on the floor. when our. crack me to my feet untied me up.
6:33 am
and i passed out because i lost so much blood. i was still bleeding and they kept stabbing me here and here. like you crying oh jesus they just left me lying there i can't remember what happened after that. among players. among that. company but you know i would like to think that. she's my property i hope that will have a good life but if she starts behaving badly even though i gave a cow to have parents nothing out of the deal for me to read a quote with you i don't pollute ruth and she go somewhere without my permission i can call her my wife and. i couldn't because it's.
6:34 am
every woman makes my bed the same way. the difference is in the way they make love . but if you go into the village and have good sex with a woman you can learn new techniques. but if you try them out on your wife she called you a male hole. with a good woman has to accept the way that you make love so that you don't stop chasing other women could swing the ball with another very different kind of woman express a sexual desire openly she's not allowed to talk about her feelings it would mean a man can tell a woman he wants sex but i want to contrast demand for it and. i think us here. russia was still. in the democratic republic of congo women do twice as much work as men on average. but they have no opportunity to earn their own money or to acquire property.
6:35 am
that is. the right. path. i. think the two. that i was i.
6:36 am
think i i. think i'm to make the i husband and i had nothing yeah yeah and i got some food every once in a while i. met a ton of affluence just. as soon as he come home he'd start beating me and yeah especially when he wanted to sleep with me and i didn't feel like it. was like if i had sex with him one day and then the next and then i'd say i'm tired he beat me on the third day you know that's right. mom watch out in your head you know whenever i saw him i panicked you know what i see i mean you look at you're so afraid that your heart races and you bang your head against the wall. my dog myself who you were really afraid of almost all.
6:37 am
i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone else you hired me to do i couldn't have fun with anyone i couldn't go outside to talk to people and that's what he kept threatening me and then he beat me you know he was violent we got to really we going to see me if you hold me one time he showed up at the apartment and asked me why were you outside with the neighbors how dare you i don't believe you had to talk to people you know and then you punch me in the face for two men who. are more vulnerable more than a good look at that than to say that that was not enough. to. accept i only saw out bucholz eyes. like i did a little bit on the scene the another time he beat me while i was bathing my infant son he had just been circumcised he smacked me in the forehead while my husband was beating me the child slipped out of my hands and fell into a bucket which he continued to beat me he pounded me with the bucket until it was
6:38 am
completely bent out of shape in your view while all. female i wasn't wearing any clothes no shoes nothing i walked out of the apartment. and went to the police station. i screamed please help me my husband followed me and kept insulting me. that you know if you have you lost it. oh yes i think the police to help me under what i asked them to come back home with me so i could pack up my things and you know but they said. that there was nothing they could do if the police don't take action how can we get men to change their behavior so let's be clear pontiacs. you see if you give women all the freedom they want they won't be able to handle it
6:39 am
they have no morals and they cause trouble. some people say that independent women are prostitutes. pussies you. know. if you beat your wife so hard that she needs to look you've got to have a good reason. if you find your wife in your home with another man it hurts me and you've got to put a stop to it not. going to the only pull you don't want to do so you beat the living daylights out of her and leave her lying on the floor that's what you should do if you catch your wife sleeping with another man. window but. you can't throw a man out of his house while the women have houses for i don't know so men have the right to criticise. but i don't yell no that was. good. men don't want other men to see their wife naked. even if she's outside your and we don't want strangers to see that oh yeah if a man finds his wife in the bushes he might suspect that she's having sex with
6:40 am
another guy why when he's a man. and if he can sleep with someone else's wife he will. tell you he does that because he thinks he must dominate or. that men also cheat on their spouses but i wanted to get. the democratic republic of congo is a major supplier of cotton or which contains the element ten to one this element is widely used in the manufacture of personal electronic devices. congo's cotton mining industry is controlled. rebels who use profits from sales of the war to finance their military operations thank. god. i was. told that i was in the i was never. going to do i didn't it is
6:41 am
only going to win those men were filthy animals. they raped us. if we didn't want to have sex with them they took us by force. they tore off our clothes i may just do things that we didn't want to do. they spat on us you can't imagine how awful these people were. and when i first saw them my heart sank and kept beating faster and faster. it was like i'd seen a lion coming out of the jungle yelling. that morning officials have a couple more they forced the women to lie on the ground in rows. one woman right next to the other had all the upper hand and they raped us right there in public. they moved from one woman to another talk about the idea that. some women
6:42 am
covered their face out of shame and the men beat them thank you and yelled at them don't cover your eyes to everyone who did was beaten. up and there was shoot we were forced to watch all that media and we don't. but only one milo would look they'd bring in a boy and order him to have sex with his mother. they said that if he refused they'd kill him but we've seen a lot of suffering so much. before. the rebels ordered us to pick up some sticks. they said that one of the men was going to be killed that day and we were going to do it. they weren't going to shoot that man or stabbed him to death. they said that we were going to beat him to death with our sticks. the rebels surrounded the victim and ordered him not to cry.
6:43 am
they said that if we cried thank shooters we started beating him and kept beating him until he was dead to me. yes i am yes i have children are possible to one day my husband attack me with and sent me with. my youngest child was three years old at the time. i finished cooking and washing the dishes i went outside to dump some dirty water it was yeah when i came back to where the child said daddy's lying on
6:44 am
the bed under the musty to net way i'm talking i didn't believe him when i looked in there he wants me i was terrified because he had this wild look on his face his eyes were glowing he looked like a monster. i turned my back on him to tend to the child that's when my husband attacked me which i fell down he tried to force my mouth open he pressed his fingers into my cheeks while i clamped my teeth together. and i cried out like a sheet he took a can of liquid and pulled the contents into my mouth. but i felt a burning sensation and i wanted to scream. but i kept quiet because if i tried to speak i probably swallowed the acid he actually thought i had swallowed it and it was going to burn my insides. then he put on some gloves and import the rest of the acid over my body. he dropped it into my eyes and the rest
6:45 am
of my face. covered my whole body with it i was lying motionless on the floor then my husband left the apartment and locked the door from the outside what would be to have your call would the doctor. to. get. you to feel it my mouth felt like it was on fire but. the pain was unbearable don't you know brooke. to congeal but yes started to fall out because it was covered with us and our jack my clothes were shredded sore so i have to walk around as nearly ninety. and some medical tuffy. also body felt like it
6:46 am
was burning then i was more of the only. comment on. the police arrested my husband but later let him go. he's been housing me and the children and we have no where else to go. you know where we live if erekat. new there is always driving around the neighborhood looking for me you know and i'm nervous all the time because i'm afraid to actually i'm always afraid maybe even when i leave the house during the day or my mother doesn't want me to go out alone so when i do go out i always take two other people
6:47 am
with me to get her shoes levee. buster is it evoke even maci want to kill me and my children and i can't even go out to the toilet alone at night because of him. i have to wake up my sister or brother to go along with me. my husband is always hanging around the neighborhood that the. maze of i'm not safe here tonight for my children he soon he follows the kids all the time and threatens them that's just terrible but to go on that was still afraid and because of him we're not safe here. or do not pass it greedy.
6:48 am
i only want to show murder he kept having sex with me monoliths my life is a living hell of the one i have there for an hour and it was like my family who had a range the marriage had thrown me into a lake of fire. sometimes i thought it would be better to take poison or hang myself. but i didn't. my mother says that if i had been a good wife my marriage wouldn't have gone so wrong and now it was my fate to live alone. she said that if i had really wanted to be married i would not have left my husband. there. was that when i saw that my daughter had been badly abused i decided to take her to my home but after about two weeks some people came and brought her back to her husband. that i knew then i talked to some village
6:49 am
elders and told them what had happened. i listened to their advice and decided i was not going to give her back. it's them there is no justice in our society that we have to live with that if i complain people say that my daughter is a band woman and i'm just making things worse mine i made it about how difficult. that is how. women have to deal with the huge amount of stress caused by their husbands and in north. of there who are sick and if they have no education. they have to rely completely on those people he. says really worship and want to get in the way when the girls go to school the boys harass them along the way. to get a ticket that happens a lot these days and that's why
6:50 am
a lot of girls don't go to school. they were the only thing that they were afraid that they'll lose their own or because they're being harassed by boys. invent carty culture it's impossible for boys to lose their own nothing. that isn't there because it only happens to women on it. and when it does they become outcasts in society mothers it was that it was the family but this mother that. pity. that it out. then was. i mean that out. there oh yes. i am e.f. zero zero zero zero. zero zero zero zero zero. zero zero. zero. zero zero you.
6:51 am
condemn me on physiognomist today i can talk about what happened to me. i was unable to do that before. i couldn't even talk to myself about it so i looked but now i can talk to anyone anywhere at the market for example. for our next hour i want to get something i have a lot more courage. on this how. i'm going to i've been able to climb out of that swamp. i've come a long way thanks to the people at the archie project. they helped me make some changes in my life and i think i've done really well so i want to be in the mindset of the top of a lot of the most i'm not the talking head i was the work i can't get to do is going to get somebody. who. could do.
6:52 am
that. i. think. i could listen. to. what. i. said if you could see. why she had pneumonia. or when we got here i learned that my son. had died. and while we wonder if we went through some really hard times.
6:53 am
and then a little later. my daughter was kidnapped one whose course i didn't know what to do i had to live in the countryside life was terribly hard that's all i can say yes my husband left me and moved to. you stayed there for a long time because he didn't want to take me back. before that he and i had a good life we got along but when these problems turned up his personality changed he wanted to shut me out of his life and he claimed that i supported the hutu rebels. because. one of them. to.
6:54 am
the middle man don't call me if i don't know where to go i live outdoors in the countryside. i have no husband and no children and without money they killed my child. and so now i sit here alone i have no place to live i'm worried and miserable. i have to deal with a lot of different problems we have to look for food with clothes and a place to sleep we don't have a proper home we just live outdoors. like the birds. and i'm calling. to right here i have my children made fun of me and avoided me. they said that i
6:55 am
wasn't human anymore when young i asked myself how my children could treat me like that i had in the bank and i wondered what my parents would say when they found out about it what and that would happen again my husband was doing the devil's work when he started spreading those rumors about me. and my children believed him and i give him some food but he refused that he said he didn't want to be served by someone who lived in the forest. for me put my children no longer thought of me as their mother. it was like they thought that i was dead. when i laugh that it was anything. these events left scars on our hearts. and to this day when i hear a noise i cannot go on the door or a can falling over i'm frightened my heart starts beating faster i feel awful my heart is beating faster because i'm afraid that something awful will
6:56 am
happen again. through the pain to try to get a letter these experiences have also affected our mental health one on one hand i feel fine right now but later i might start crying because i feel threatened. it's like i've gone crazy i'm king of worship to. why they would god. was there. i know one hour from will i must when school starts you're going to have to learn how to raise guinea pigs while you give one to each child in your family. there's plenty of grass here for the guinea pigs to eat. the kids can feed them if you have to pay school fees you can sell three guinea pics if you haven't got enough food you can eat them. i eat a guinea pig meat myself. i mean someone like us i mean you know what i. am i been. you know. we work with the same
6:57 am
member support group but they farmers breeders or traders. we meet on the first and last day of each month and we talk about how to make our lives better. each of us donates five hundred francs to a special fund. and we give the money to women so we just had a child or someone who's just got married we also give money to the relatives of the people who've die out with this is the so. to listen. to. him and then. you're going. to let it go at it i don't. mean you know. the. value of blaming don't make money but you need to meet new
6:58 am
people get the culture. the way oh my god that's what he's about much of the cool one zero zero zero zero. tell me how. breaking taboos and a mom who is also a rock star. in turkish i'm it must seem to say for conservative muslims face double life is a standalone. he's under investigation by turkey's religious authorities threatening the runny mom with suspension. thirty minutes doubling.
6:59 am
every journey begins with the first step and every language but the first word published in the book. rico is in germany to learn german and why not learn with him it's simple online on your mobile and free south w z learning course nikos speak german mating easy. celebrate one hundred years of college and join our photo competition show us the power house movement impact your world for a chance to win one of three like the cameras follow us on instagram tag and post your pics using hashtags powerhouse one hundred so get snapping. my goal terms and conditions at the w documentary on instagram.
7:00 am
this is deja vu news live from berlin trying to break the brakes a deadlock british prime minister theresa may have set to present her plan before leaving the european union but would be enough to satisfy a deeply divided parliament. also coming up at spin called the super blood of wolf moon just a short while ago the moon turned this mess maria mesmerizing shade of red why have an expert on to tell us about the spectacular lunar eclipse.


info Stream Only

Uploaded by TV Archive on